Three obsessive behaviours that you might be doing that prevent you from recovering from stress can be easily identified and remedied so you can enjoy a stress-free life. Sometimes your anxiety and stress can go beyond what can be remedied by an activity like renting a boat - whatever your preference.
Obsessive negativity is the first one, and when you are obsessively negative you can be down on places, situations, people and things in your everyday life, and it becomes a habit.
Perhaps you find yourself saying things like "I can't do this!" or "I always do the wrong thing or "People don't like me", for example. This may be completely subconscious for you, but essentially you have what's known as a "sour grapes" attitude, and it inhibits you knowing what it's like to view life through a positive lens and enjoy the beauty in yourself and people around you! The world looks different with happiness and positive thinking.
Obsessive perfectionism is the second challenge, and can be a deep source of anxiety. When you engage in obsessive perfectionism, you are centered on trying to do everything "just so" to the point of driving yourself into an anxious state of being. You may find yourself making internal statements such as, "If I don't do this right, I'm a failure" or "I've got to do this right or people will be mad" This behaviour might be totally under the threshold of your awareness, nevertheless it interferes greatly with your ability to enjoy things without feeling stress.
The third is obsessive analysis - being overly obsessed with minute details and being afraid that if you don't understand the process that things won't go right. You might look over a procedure over and over again, rehashing it in your brain, becoming anxious that you don't have full control if you don't have full knowledge.
While analytical thinking is an excellent trait if it's done in excess you never get to stop and enjoy even the little things in life because you're too busy trying to analyse everything and everyone around you. Letting go of stress can sometimes be as simple as realizing that you don't need to have total control over everything and, in general, things always work out for the best.
If you recognize any of these blocking behaviours in yourself, there are tactics you can use to address them and help free yourself of them without having to resort to a psychologist. First, ask a few trusted friends or relatives whether they think you are negative in general, or if they think you are difficult to be around.
You will need to approach this with an open mind because the truth can hurt, but this is the quickest way of finding out whether others see you differently to how you expect them to see you. The insights you gain can be used to actively change how you deal with life.
Secondly, keep a diary to write down and establish patterns of when you are using blocking behaviours. Even if you are not thrilled with the idea of writing, you can make little entries into a note book or journal each day. The great part is that you'll begin to see patterns in your behavior that reveal exactly what you're doing to prevent yourself from curing your anxiety.
Obsessive negativity is the first one, and when you are obsessively negative you can be down on places, situations, people and things in your everyday life, and it becomes a habit.
Perhaps you find yourself saying things like "I can't do this!" or "I always do the wrong thing or "People don't like me", for example. This may be completely subconscious for you, but essentially you have what's known as a "sour grapes" attitude, and it inhibits you knowing what it's like to view life through a positive lens and enjoy the beauty in yourself and people around you! The world looks different with happiness and positive thinking.
Obsessive perfectionism is the second challenge, and can be a deep source of anxiety. When you engage in obsessive perfectionism, you are centered on trying to do everything "just so" to the point of driving yourself into an anxious state of being. You may find yourself making internal statements such as, "If I don't do this right, I'm a failure" or "I've got to do this right or people will be mad" This behaviour might be totally under the threshold of your awareness, nevertheless it interferes greatly with your ability to enjoy things without feeling stress.
The third is obsessive analysis - being overly obsessed with minute details and being afraid that if you don't understand the process that things won't go right. You might look over a procedure over and over again, rehashing it in your brain, becoming anxious that you don't have full control if you don't have full knowledge.
While analytical thinking is an excellent trait if it's done in excess you never get to stop and enjoy even the little things in life because you're too busy trying to analyse everything and everyone around you. Letting go of stress can sometimes be as simple as realizing that you don't need to have total control over everything and, in general, things always work out for the best.
If you recognize any of these blocking behaviours in yourself, there are tactics you can use to address them and help free yourself of them without having to resort to a psychologist. First, ask a few trusted friends or relatives whether they think you are negative in general, or if they think you are difficult to be around.
You will need to approach this with an open mind because the truth can hurt, but this is the quickest way of finding out whether others see you differently to how you expect them to see you. The insights you gain can be used to actively change how you deal with life.
Secondly, keep a diary to write down and establish patterns of when you are using blocking behaviours. Even if you are not thrilled with the idea of writing, you can make little entries into a note book or journal each day. The great part is that you'll begin to see patterns in your behavior that reveal exactly what you're doing to prevent yourself from curing your anxiety.
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Other activities that can alleviate stress include playing drifting games and watching motor racing - whatever distracts you from your current situation is good. It doesn't necessarily have to be 'relaxing', but should be enjoyable.
